Six Ways To Grow And Become A Better Version Of Yourself

Welcome to 2021!

I hope that everyone enjoyed spending time with family and friends over the holiday season. I enjoyed spending some uninterrupted time with my children, no phones, no technology – good conversation and laughs with my teenager and playful moments with my toddler.

You would be hard-pressed to find someone who is displeased that 2020 is done and dusted! The year 2020 proved to be a challenging year for us all. For Grace Family and Collaborative Law, last year was one of the busiest on record with divorce and separation enquiries at an all-time high, increasing enquiries about childcare arrangements amid lockdown restrictions and dealing with a rising number of domestic violence cases.

Thankfully, we have been able to continue offering support when you need us most. As we look ahead for what 2021 has in store for family law, we recognise that 2020 has been one of challenges and change for our profession and the year 2021 will undoubtedly be another year of change.

Divorce and separation also present its own challenges. Particularly during a period, when you may be already feeling out of control, unsafe and in an unfamiliar world. You may begin to question multiple aspects of your life. Sometimes with divorce or separation comes painful change; however, you also have the opportunity to be able to grow in new and exciting ways.

As we leave the year of loss, we enter a year of growth. A new year always starts with a blank slate, and we have an opportunity to welcome 2021 by choosing happiness over history and welcoming growth.  

Here are six ways to grow and become a better version of yourself in 2021:

1. Accept the reality of your circumstances. Let go and accept the things you cannot change. Be mindful and accept that you cannot control others around you. You can only control your reaction to your situation or your reaction to others around you—practice mindfulness.
2. Learn to love being on your own. Feeling alone is usually a temporary feeling. Accept it. Take time to appreciate the stillness and silence amongst everything going on around you. You may even want to take up meditation or begin that new book you have wanted to read.
3. Adjust your attitude. Be grateful for the things that you have in life. Be optimistic about your future, and understand that with change comes growth.
4. Take some time to rediscover yourself. During a marriage or a relationship, it is easy to fall into a rut and routine. Take some time to ask yourself, what are some things that I enjoy doing? Who am I? Who do I want to become?
5. Perfect Your Posse! It is so important to have an excellent support network around you after separation. Surround yourself with people who will be positive, lift you up and empower you. Do not get caught up with negativity.
6. Set Goals. Do you want to travel? Do you have a luxury item that you want to save for? Is it merely to smile more? Write it down and commit yourself to achieve your goals.

Remember it is up to you to decide each day about the improvement you will make towards your new chapter in life.

May this year bring you all that you desire! Here is to seeing dreams come true and to continued love and happiness among family and friends.

We are grateful for your support and look forward to continuing to serve you.